So, as I was considering today’s title, I thought about using the word “receiving.” But then when I was thinking about the difference between receiving and allowing… So, let’s go over basic law of attraction. So, law of attraction, quantum physics is physics, and it’s happening all day long, every day, whether you believe it or not. You emanate a frequency, and we understand that frequency to be emotion. And that’s really how you can tell what kind of, or the quality of, or the vibration of your frequency is. It’s like music. You know the difference between angry music, sad music, and happy music, right? Well, those are frequencies. So, it’s the same thing. You’re emanating a frequency of your emotions, whatever they are, whether you’re conscious of them, that 12% of your conscious brain, or it’s subconscious, 88% of the habitual things you’ve been doing your whole life and maybe don’t even realize. And law of attraction is basically just matching whatever you’re putting out. And what you put out changes. It changes based on who you’re talking to, what you’re focused on, what you’re thinking about, who you’re with, what you’re doing. Your frequency changes all the time, just like your emotions have the ability to change all the time.

So, let’s just say you’re in a state of allowing where you’re trying to be in alignment, whatever that means for you. It means you feel joy and love and peace and solid grounding in your body. You feel connected, basically. You’re in the moment. That’s a huge thing to remember. You’re in the moment. You’re in this red hot moment. You’re not thinking about the future. You’re not worried about the past. You’re not worried about the future. You’re not upset about the past. You’re in this red hot “right now” moment. When you’re in this red hot “right now” moment, you are being given things in law of attraction, so you are receiving. So, there’s a difference between receiving… You’re receiving all day long. And some of the things you’re receiving, you don’t like. The difference is, are you allowing it in? Especially when you’re in that good feeling place, because I think that is the difference in law of attraction. For a lot of people, they get messed up thinking, “Well, I have to just think positive thoughts.” No. You have to feel good. And positive thoughts can help you get there, but you’re not just supposed to lie to yourself and think positive thoughts but yet underneath the surface, you’re pissed or you’re mad or you’re worried. So, your emotional energy, which becomes your frequency and vibration, that’s what translates into what comes to you and the situations that you’re in. And it doesn’t mean you’re wrong or bad. This is not a judgment. What it is is a reflection. So, keep in mind, we’re receiving all day long. The choice becomes: are you allowing it in? If someone is giving you a compliment, are you allowing it? Are you accepting it? You might get compliments all the time and maybe not even hear it because you’re not in the frequency of allowing it. Hope that makes sense.

So, there is a difference between allowing and receiving. And while I wanted to say “5 Ways to Receive More,” you can receive but you may not allow. And there’s a difference. And I hope you feel the difference. Allowing means a certain surrender and a certain acknowledgment that you are worthy of more. You can do something so well, and you can attract people who affirm you, who want to pay you more, and you can basically deflect and say, “No, no, no. It wasn’t that good. I didn’t really do it that well. No, no. I don’t need that much. That’s okay. Oh, god, that’s too much.” So, I want you to notice the different subtleties of if you are being given the option to receive more and if you deflect and don’t allow it in. So, I just wanted to set the stage for the difference between those two words, because while I wanted to use a new word in the title just to shake it up and be a little different, I thought, “No. ‘5 Ways to Allow in More’ is deeper work than receiving.” Because you can receive. It’s like when people win the lottery. They have won the lottery. Do they allow it in? No. Most of them spend it pretty quickly and then go into debt, because they don’t know how to allow in the abundance, because they didn’t prepare themselves. They didn’t earn it vibrationally, so they don’t know how to hold all of this abundance when they probably practiced something less, or they haven’t wrapped their head around the deservability or that they are worthy and that this is a celebratory thing. So, I just wanted to make that clear going into these five ways to allow in more.

All right. So, the first thing I want to have you notice, so number one, the first thing to do to allow in more is to notice and pay attention to, and possibly change, your energy. Now, that seems pretty broad, right? But what I’m talking about is the energy underneath doing things, the energy underneath attaining things. If you are trying to earn more money or get someone to go out on a date with you, or your health, and you’re taking actions, whether it be diet-related, food-related, dating app-related, going on dates, if the energy underneath is scarcity, if it’s desperation, if it’s “Boy, I want to get this thing out of the way and get it over with because I want to be able to move away from it or move on,” that would be energy that blocks allowing in more. You are setting the tone for having to perform for love or perform for something. It’s like putting the carrot out in front of you, but the carrot is never attainable. If you say, “Well, when I lose weight, I’ll feel better.” And of course, if you’ve been following me for a while, you understand that in law of attraction, that’s not going to work. Actually, in order for you to lose the weight, you have to feel better now. You have to deeply accept and surrender to your now. Allow in the now. Again, if you just pause, take a nice, deep breath in this red hot minute. Now, if you’re driving, of course, don’t close your eyes, or exercising. But if you just notice this red hot now, everything is probably fine. There’s nothing right this second that is wrong or bad. The story that you’re telling, the condition that you’re in, the situation that you’re in may not be awesome, but moment to moment, your energy can shift greatly when you surrender and allow in the now.

So, when you’re thinking about a goal that you have (and we all have them, whether you’re working hard towards them or not), just notice the energy. Is the energy about “When I get there, then I can relax”?

So, again, the first way to allow in more, you can either say, “Change your energy” or “Pay attention to your energy.” And notice, what is it? Is it coming from scarcity? And that’s one choice. And I’m going to guess a lot of you are. “I have to pay the bills. I have to get well. I have to lose weight. I have to find a guy. I have to find a girl. I have to do this.” That energy is what’s fueling, it’s what’s powering, your intentions and your attraction. And at that level, you don’t even want what’s on the other side of that, because you have set yourself up to be a victim of a hamster wheel for a long time. If it’s always the carrot in front of you, you’re always running. That’s not allowing. Allowing is sitting still and allowing the leverage of the universe to bring to you that which you’re emanating and that which you’re in alignment with, but you’re allowing it in. It’s coming to you. It’s called leverage. That’s what we’re seeking here is the leverage.

So, number one, change your energy, or pay attention to your energy. And if it’s coming from scarcity, the other choice is to act from pleasure, freedom, or excitement. So, I’ll tell you a brief story. About a week ago, I traveled down to Long Beach to get this sort of facial procedure, if you will, about some skin irregularities that I had. So, I had a really long drive. And on the drive there, I decided to call and deal with sort of a looming, lingering financial deal that I have with my ex, and wanting to take care of that, wanting to figure out how to make that happen. And of course, the news wasn’t good in terms of what I might have to pay in order to make this go away and to finally close this. And I was feeling super defeated, and I just stopped, because the momentum that had been created with me was frustration and wanting this to be done, wanting this to be over, wanting to get it off the plate, wanting this disconnection to be final. And I noticed that if I was to make a phone call from that action, from that energy of defeat and frustration and general icky–ness, I wasn’t going to be helping myself. And I wasn’t in a state of allowing at all. I was in a state of fighting. I was in a state of negotiating. I was in a state of desperation, kind of.

So, I said to myself in my head, not out loud because I was driving in my car by myself. I said to myself, “All right. So, if I’m supposed to pay this ginormous sum of money to close this, which is my fault, then I will get a sign from the universe.” And then I started thinking about “Oh, well, what could I sell or what could I do to get the money, to find the money?” And again, just those words, “What could I do to get the money?” is completely not allowing the universe to help me out. So, I stopped because I was like, “No, that’s not the energy from which to create from.” That’s not the energy of excitement, of pleasure, of freedom, of creativity. So, I just said, “Forget it. I’m not going to pay… Never mind. Just put this down. I’m going to put this down. I’m going to do a state change, walk away. I’m going to go to dinner with my friend, and then I’m going to drive home.” I didn’t do anything about it. Then the next morning, I got an email: someone requesting something that I offer that would have basically taken care of that bill. Now, I saw that as an amazing message from the universe that when I let go and surrendered, the universe

So, when you can find yourself trying from desperation… And here’s how you’ll know. A lot of you have heard my fibroids story, but you’ll hear more about it, and you’ll actually hear the actual interview that Alison Melody and I did during my procedure years ago. I will bring that front and center because there’s just so many damn lessons in it. But when I would go to the doctor’s office and get their diagnosis and get ready to sign up for surgery, I would hysterically cry every time. It took me the third time, as I was crying, like super loud, annoying crying, ugly crying, for me to go, “Oh, light bulb. JJ, you don’t believe this. You do not believe this is the right way to go, because if you did, you’d feel relief.” And that’s another point to make. Some of you, whether you do holistic medicine or allopathic western medicine, whatever it is you choose, when you feel relief, that means you’re in alignment. That’s why no one can really tell you what’s right for you. You have to feel what’s right for you. Some of the things that I would never do may, at some point, be right for me if I am in the alignment that that’s what I need. I didn’t want conventional help, but I did get into the place after two years that my body said, “All right. It’s time to reach out for some help.” But it was on my terms, it was on my timeline, in my way, and I had manifested the perfect thing to do, which two years prior was not an option.

So, again, it just goes back to the understanding of the scarcity timeline. Take a breath, and sit still, and do nothing. And you have to do a state change. Remember that the frequency of the solution is higher and in a different place than the frequency of the problem. So, if you’re beating the drum of the problem, the energy of the problem, the conversation about the problem, the story about the problem, the feelings about the problem, you’re not going to find the answer there. You have to disconnect. You have to pivot. You have to disconnect and allow your cork to float, your energy to rise, your perspective to change, your momentum to change, in order for you to get the answer that’s right for you. So, pay attention to your energy and the momentum that you’re creating.

Number two, another way to allow in more. We’ve talked a lot in the show, and I forget sometimes because now we’re well into the 600th episode of Fit 2 Love, and I’ve done so many shows that I’m starting to lose track. I have a really good memory and I normally can tell you where I’ve talked about this before, but we’re past that now. It’s been too many years. We talked about upper limits with Gay Hendricks and “The Big Leap” in what was the Inner Circle Membership, which is now Empower U. I did four episodes with Doug, literally walking through the book. I think we talked a little bit about it on “The Genius Zone” with Gay Hendricks. And we do it at my events. So, know and work on your upper limits. Now, you can buy the book and do it on your own, but you need to know and work on your upper limits. An upper limit basically is your temperature gauge of what you think you deserve. So, if you’re thinking you’re wanting more than you have, and you keep getting opportunities to get more, but then you upper limit, well, first, you need to know what the upper limit is and how you upper limit. Do you worry? Do you get sick and get hurt? Do you deflect? What’s the pattern when you are uncomfortable allowing in more? Because if you don’t understand or know your upper limits, then you don’t know when it’s coming. When you can see it coming and it’s happening, and you are happier and you allow in more happiness, then you say, “Okay, I want this thing.” And then that thing starts to come, and then you upper limit by getting sick, getting hurt, getting in an accident. You can start to see the patterns.

And then what to do about it is to breathe through it. I mean, you can read it in the book. He talks about it. And definitely, if you want any further work on it, I’m available. The event is available. My coaches are available. But you need to know your upper limits and you have to work on them, because you’re never going to allow in more if your temperature gauge is stuck at, let’s just say, let’s use degrees… If I’m at 60 degrees, and there’s no right or wrong about this, but let’s just give it a 1 to 10 or a 10 to 100 degrees, and let’s make 100 degrees the top. There’s no top, though. You keep expanding. And 10 degrees really, at the end, you don’t allow in much, right? If you only allow in 10% of goodness, that’s not really awesome, right? You’re probably not really happy at 10% of goodness. So, let’s say you live at 50% of goodness, but you want to be up at 80% or 90%. The only way you’re going to change that percentage is to know what your current is and how do I get past that? So, that’s why you want to know them and you want to work on them.

So, you can buy “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks. You can read the book. You can listen to the audio. And definitely understand that it happens at every stage. Every person upper limits when you’re going into a new temperature gauge, a new zone of allowing. And some people don’t actually get any higher because they don’t know that they’re upper limiting, and so they stay cycling in the same temperature. And I hope that makes sense to you guys. I really enjoy this application of this work with law of attraction because it isn’t as simple as just get into alignment and feel good. “Okay, cool, yes, so that way, I can receive the thing I want.” But then the upper limit of deserving, knowing you deserve it, understanding what it looks like when you do it, and then allowing it in, is a whole another ball game. It changes this conversation so it’s not about I just feel happy or I don’t. It deepens your deservability. It deepens your confidence and your self-worth to yourself. And that’s the work you have to do to allow in more. If you don’t believe you’re worth it, you’re not going to receive it or allow it. So, know and work on your upper limits.

All right. Number three: Focus forward. This happened recently with a client, but I’ve seen it in others in the past. There are times where we want to know, because we are completely understanding that our energy when we were younger with our caretakers created our core wounds, and it shaped who we are, especially if a lot of trauma happened to you and you want to look back at the trauma and give the trauma the power and say, “It was because of this trauma that my life is shitty. And it is the way it is, and these bad things have happened. And I’m not happy, and I’m not well. So, I want to go back and I want to work on these traumas because I believe they’re blocking me from moving forward.” All right. Well, that makes sense, and we can’t just go back because, again, every new day is a new day. So, where are you going? And we don’t even need to go back more than what we did in the “Roadmap to Emotional Healing” course. Go figure out what your core wounds are, and then move forward. And then when you upper limit, now we can go back, clean it up, so you can proceed forward on your path moving forward.

So, I want you to focus forward. Where are you going? What do you want? You can’t just look backwards. You can’t just talk about… That’s probably one of the reasons why I’m not a fan of therapy, is because it’s always about what… Even when Doug went through three sessions of therapy last year, it was because I just said, “I want you to have someone to talk to other than me. I don’t want to be the therapist.” And he doesn’t even have any problems. But it was all the back story, the back story, the back story. And I asked him, “Did you fill out any paperwork? Did you make any goals? Is there any plans? Is there any tools?” And the answer, of course, was no, no, no, and no. I’m like, “Well, this is why therapy fails people, because you don’t know where you’re going.” All you know is you’re talking about the past, or you’re talking about what happened yesterday, or how somebody pissed you off today. Okay, who cares?

Where are you going? Focus forward. Have a plan. Have dreams. Think bigger. Dream big. What are you going to do with the rest of your life if you have everything that you want? And not that I have everything that I want, but I’m sitting pretty right now, working on the same thing, going, “Where am I going? What do I want to have happen?” I have literally gotten almost everything I’ve wanted, so I’m really at a huge level of peace, freedom, love, and joy all the time. But I know that I’m not done. There’s more. I definitely want more stuff here at my house to work on. So, you have to focus forward. We’re going to go back when you need to… Because the past will absolutely stop you in the future or stop you from moving forward, but we don’t need to look at it until you’re on your path. So, please, focus forward. “Where am I going? What’s new? What do I want to build? What do I want to create? What do I want to feel?”

All right. Number four, which is sort of in alignment with number three: Take bold action. Now, there is a small percentage of you out there… And I say small because now I can… After being in this community for as long as I have, and working with as many people as I have, and meeting a lot of people as I have, when I first started my show, I was around a lot of business owners whose energy (back to number one) came from scarcity. So, they were all action takers, but their action was to get more money, get more money, get more money, all the things. And that’s fine, but it was always like taking action but the action was not in alignment. They weren’t coming from inspired action. They weren’t coming from pure selfish (and I say that in a positive way), like “What do I want to be doing?” not “What do I need to do to get others to pay me, or need to say or be to get others to like me?”

If you haven’t heard my show from two weeks ago, “Your Inner Prostitute,” that would go in alignment with what I’m saying right now. A lot of small business owners, we’re all prostitutes. And some of you are prostitutes for love or prostitutes for attention. And again, it’s not a judgment. It’s a fact if you look at your behavior, because if you say… Even those people-pleasers that are out there, you guys would think, “Oh, I’m a people-pleaser.” Right. You’re a manipulator because you’re only doing what you’re doing so you’ll get something in return for that. It’s not “I’m going to be nice to you, and then you’re going to be mean to me, and I’m okay with that.” You’re nice to people and you go the extra mile because you want them to think of you in a certain way, or maybe you think they’re going to do the same for you.

So, back to the action, because again, I said… So, the business owners, they’d be out of alignment, and it wouldn’t feel good to me. And there were times where I would see people in a mastermind who had the time and space to take their time and let things evolve and really do some research and feel into. And I was in support of the evolving and unfolding of their business versus other people that were on top of them to take action, take action, take action. So, if you’re someone that takes action based out of that, that scarcity that we talked about in the beginning, and you have no problem taking action, your action isn’t coming from pleasure or freedom, then you’re going to take a beat, and you’re not going to take big, bold action yet. You’re actually going to take bold action by doing nothing. But that’s only for a small percentage of you. The rest of you that don’t do anything, that sit and listen and think somehow osmosis is going to change all the neurological programming in your head, all the subconscious programming by listening, yeah, not going to happen. You need to do something and create some positive momentum by investing in yourself and taking a risk. You can also say, do something scary. All right? So, take bold action is number four. How do you allow in more? Take bold action. Show the universe, show yourself that you’re willing to allow in more, that you’re willing to be seen and heard, that you’re willing to believe in yourself, that you’re willing to invest in yourself, you’re willing to give to yourself, and you’re going to start with you.

Okay. The fifth and final way to allow in more, and I’m sure there’s more, but I wanted to make it a little shorter, because I probably could do this all day and find 10 more things. But the fifth way is to, I’m going to say, do the opposite. But I’m going to put “Do the opposite,” and you’re going to think, “What’s that about?” So, I’m going to go back to the “Know your upper limits,” and this would be “Know your core wounds.” So, on the “Roadmap to Emotional Healing” course, which the live has now been completed, so now it is available for anyone that missed the live but would like to take the course on their own time. Go to jjflizanes.com/roadmap. The roadmap course was set up to give your power back, identify what your needs and feelings are, as well as to uncover your core wounds that drive your whole life. And we got to really categorize in a very succinct way to “Here are your core wounds. Here’s your emotional go-to response to these core wounds. And here is your go-to coping pattern.” All right?

So, once you understand those three things, now we know what your patterns and habits are that upper limit you. So, if you interpret something as to mean you are not worthy or you’re rejected, and then your normal thing is to cry, and then after you cry, you withdraw. All right? So, that’s an example. Well, do the opposite of that. So, if you feel rejected, instead of crying, maybe you get mad, not to the person but by yourself, and maybe you allow anger out. And then instead of withdrawing, you ask questions. You become curious. You ask the person who you think was rejecting you what they meant by that, or you ask them to clarify for you. You don’t withdraw. You do the opposite. And when you start to do the opposite of what you normally do, you change those neurological patterns. Your interpretation changes.

So, you really want to know what your core wounds are, and you really want to understand these patterns because you’ll see them very quickly and then you’ll know what to do about them. If you don’t understand the patterns, if you don’t see them, then each situation ends up being its own unique story. Again, one of the problems of therapy is if you tell the same story over and over again, you haven’t identified that this is the pattern that you have, while you might not understand it psychologically, you have to do something different. You can’t heal core wounds by repeating the same pattern. You can’t change your neurological programming without doing something different. Again, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.

So, I’ll run through these one more time. So, the first one is change your energy or pay attention to your energy, and change that scarcity so that you’re excited or you feel pleasure or freedom in doing the thing that you’re doing, that you’re not being driven by scarcity, because that won’t allow in more, or it will at a price. The price will be you prostituting yourself for money or prostituting yourself for joy or attention, or you will lose your freedom. There will be something you lose, and there will be something that you’d have to do in order to keep it up. That is not allowing. That is efforting. Number two: Know and work on your upper limits. Get “The Big Leap.” Number three: Focus forward. Have a plan. Have a goal. Have a dream. And spend time on it. Understand what lights you up and where you want to go. Number four: Take bold action. You will not change anything about your momentum or life if you don’t break the cycle. And number five: Know your core wounds and do the opposite. Do your opposite response to your emotional pattern and to your coping pattern.

And I’ve given you a couple different opportunities. I’ve mentioned that the “Roadmap to Emotional Healing” course is done, and it is available at any time for anyone to participate and do it on their own. That is jjflizanes.com/roadmap. But even a bigger, bolder action that gets you support and a whole different frequency and literally a neurological and vibrational bath and immersion into a much higher frequency than you’ve probably ever been around for an extended period of time: Come to the event. Today is May 31st. It is the last day for the early bird pricing for the “Awaken Your Dream Life.” We’re going to focus forward. We’re going to change those neurological patterns. We’re going to come to the surface and rebalance which part of the brain that you use to help you allow in more, to help you to not only recognize what you’re receiving, but then to allow it in, and to enjoy it, and to hold it, and to increase your frequency and your temperature gauge so that you can keep getting better and better. And it may sometimes require going back and cleaning up what’s happened in the past or the past’s interpretation that affects your now, but ultimately, every day you wake up, you’re going somewhere. You’re making a choice about something. You have a brand new day every day, and you have a brand new year every year, and a brand new month every month, and a brand new minute every minute. What are you doing with it? Where are you going? Are you focused forward, or are you in the past? Or are you focused forward in a worry kind of way, versus we’re trying to attain something? And it’s not even about the getting. It’s the “Where am I going? Where do I want to be?” It’s taking that magic wand and saying, “Here’s what I want. Here’s what would feel amazing.”

If that interests you, please, do not wait. Take the big, bold action. Invest in yourself. Focus forward and come to the “Awaken Your Dream Life” event. It is in October. Today is the last day for early bird pricing, so you’re not going to hear me talk about it every week anymore, because I’m just wanting you to take advantage of the price right now because it’s going to go up, as it should. Because at the end of the day, if you don’t think you’re worth that, then don’t come, because I really just want the people who understand that they are valuable. They value themselves. They value their growth. And they understand that “In order for me to make a proclamation, declaration to the universe, to myself, about what I think I’m worth, that means that I have to also honor that and do something different.” So, when you invest in you, you get it back. You get it back in confidence. You get it back in reflecting back to you that you think you’re worthy. This isn’t about me. This is about you thinking you’re worthy. So, I hope you’ll consider. Today is the last day to get you into a payment plan. There’s a five-month payment plan. It can’t get easier than that. jjflizanes.com/dreamlife. I will put all the links in the show notes that I mentioned here today. Hopefully, something sparked an aha for you, and I would love for you to learn how to allow in more. Because this is like exercise. It needs to be practiced. You have to neurologically create these patterns. And every new level requires another skill set or belief system or trust that you get better the more you do it. I hope today you’ll allow in more.